I’m Late… I’m Late. I’m Late!
Is this you? “I’m so sorry I’m late…”
You’re late. For everything. All the time. Frustrating, isn’t it?
For one thing, you know being on time would keep you on better terms with everyone. In fact, it’s hard — seemingly impossible, to be on time (and forget about early!). And this bothers you.
Sorry. I’m. Late.
In short, research shows that 15 – 20% of Americans are consistently late. In fact, these words routinely accompany their entrance into appointments, classes, meetings, social events, etc. (ABCNews)
Ultimately, lateness is a misunderstood problem, and most late people really dislike being late. For the most part, they try to be on time, but it’s something that plagues them throughout their lives.
Ultimately, lateness is a misunderstood problem, and most late people really dislike being late.Click to tweet
Chronically Late in Wonderland
By and large, there is one common factor in every case. All things considered, no one seems to be late on purpose. Rather, people usually feel guilty about being late, whether it they admit it, or not.
In the final analysis, there isn’t a single cause for lateness, or a single solution. In the long run, it’s a person-by-person problem, without a universal remedy. Therefore, if you are constantly late, you must find your reason.
Ultimately, chronically late people aren’t terrible. On balance, they’re generally hopeful and optimistic. Frequently, they simply believe they can fit more tasks into a limited time than other people.
Try This Revealing Self-Test
This simple, do-it-yourself assessment measures the differences between how on-time and late people perceive the passage of time:
- First, choose three or four pages in a book, note the time, and start to read.
- Then, when you think ninety seconds have elapsed, stop reading.
- Finally, check your time to see how accurate you were.
How did you do? As a rule, it turns out, most chronic latecomers stop reading long after ninety seconds pass. On the other hand, those who are usually prompt, or on time, stop before they reach ninety seconds. (PsychologyTest)
What Causes You to be Late?
I believe chronic lateness falls into two general categories. The first category says you have a juicy, diagnosable, personality trait that would interest a psychotherapist.
The second category defines you as habitually late; making you unproductive, stressed out, and generally feeling crappy. It’s important to realize, though, being late is not a genetic trait. In particular, one is not born with an “I’m always late” gene. (SomePeopleAlwaysLate)
How You Can Change
Learn To Be Realistic. Time your daily tasks. For example, exactly how long does it take you to eat breakfast? Or shower? Pick an outfit to wear? It’s important to realize, when you know how long things take, it’s easier to plan.
Build a Habit of Being on Time. We follow routines for almost everything; from the way we sign our name, to the route we take to work. Accordingly, the key to arriving anywhere on time requires creating a new routine (or habit). (HowNotLate) (AdoptNewHabits)
Hope for the Bemused, Bothered, & Bewildered
Above all, I believe in your ability to challenge your current behavior and power up your life. In fact, I believe you can act differently and succeed. I just happen to offer an approach that is straightforward and realistic. Want to start?
Calm Your Mind; Power Up Your Life
My name is Jacqueline Gikow. Every week I publish an article about wellness (enriching your life), or health (getting active and fit). I believe I can point you in the right direction. Contact me for information, or with questions at Audacious-Aging.NYC®
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